DID YOU KEEP YOUR WORD TO YOURSELF?
You said you’d do something.
It’s now June 2019.
Have you done it yet?
Or have you given up on that dream?
YOU SAID YOU WOULD DO IT.
Maybe you didn’t tell anyone else or maybe you told the whole world and your partner.
Either way, you told YOURSELF you’d do it.
You’d make it happen.
Well – let me ask you something.
Have you built it?
Have you achieved the thing?
Have you kept your word to yourself?
What’s held you back?
Oh I’m sure (like me) you have ALL of the reasons. ALL of the excuses. ALL of the answers for why you didn’t keep your word to yourself.
But can I ask you something?
How has it affected others?
You not keeping your word to yourself… how has that affected those around you?
How has it affected your children?
How has it affected your partner?
How has it affected your friends?
Your future customers?
Let’s get honest.
You didn’t keep your word to yourself.
And maybe it’s time to REALLY face that.
And ask yourself if that’s good enough.
If actually deep down you KNOW you’re capable of MORE.
That actually you’ve used every excuse under the sun to avoid the truth that you got scared.
Is it time for you to KEEP your word and make this thing happen?
After all, it’s only YOUR life.
IF I ASKED YOU WHY YOU DO WHAT YOU DO, WHAT WOULD YOU TELL ME?
If I asked you why you do what you do, what would you tell me?
“I’m passionate about it.”
“I just love it.”
“It’s what I’m most interested in.”
“It doesn’t feel like work because it’s what I’m really into.”
“I’m just obsessed with it – I don’t know why.”
I don’t think we ‘choose’ our passions, our business ideas, our desires.
I think they just happen.
If you’re passionate about acupuncture and essential oils, you can’t always explain why… you just are!
If you’re passionate about event planning, you can’t always explain why… you just are!
If you’re passionate about health or finance or math or memory or PR, you can’t always explain why.. you just are!
I personally don’t think we ‘choose’ what we’re passionate about.
I think it just sort of happens.
And my point is this: you didn’t CHOOSE to be ridiculously obsessed and passionate about the dream and company you have.
You just are.
And so when you question your ability to achieve your next big business goal, I want you to remind yourself that you didn’t have a choice.
You fell in love with this area of yours.
The field you’re in matters to you.
It’s what you care about.
It’s what you’re interested in.
So stop worrying about whether or not you’re GOOD ENOUGH to achieve the next big business goal… instead realize you have no real choice.
This passion and obsession chose you (who knows why) so now it’s up to you to live into it and capitalize on it as much as possible.
We don’t choose what we fall in love with.
It just sort of happens.
So it chose you.
Your calling, your dream, your business.
It chose you.
Now it’s up to you to choose it back.
You don’t think you’re worthy of growing your restaurant business? Guess what? You have no alternative 😉 – it’s what you’re passionate about. So there is no other option or choice for you. It’s this or nothing.
You don’t think you’re smart enough to scale your PR company? Guess what? You don’t have an other option. This is your passion. So it’s either this or nothing at all.
You don’t think you’re capable of leading a team in your growing beauty business? Guess what? Yeah. You guessed it. You don’t have an alternative. THIS is what you’re passionate about. So there is no other ‘thing’ to do. This is it. Too bad; you’re going to have to ALLOW yourself to do this thing you love. Because what’s the alternative? Doing nothing? That’s absurd. With your 1 life, you’re going to do NOTHING instead of growing your passion business? That’s insane.
We don’t choose our passion.
It’s just the thing we’re passionate about.
And there’s no way around it.
It is what it is.
Stop fighting it. And instead start leaning in…
WHAT YOU’RE DOING IS VERY DANGEROUS…
You know how you’ve been LISTENING to your negative inner chatter?
You know how not only have you been listening to that negative voice in your mind, but you’ve been letting her ride the show?
You know how you’ve been taking action and making decisions based on that little pessimistic voice of yours?
Now listen up.
It’s completely normal to have doubt…to question things… to worry… and to have fear.
EVERY business owner experiences that doubt.
BUT just because you have that inner chatter does NOT mean you let it dictate your life and business choices.
Because when you do, you end up with VERY frustrating business results.
You end up with lower revenue, lower profit, lower impact, lower exposure, lower everything really.
Sure – that voice is going to be there.
And sure – she’s VERY convincing.
And SURE – she makes a great argument.
But you can’t just let her win.
You can’t just follow her every whim, her every thought, her every opinion, her every belief.
Because the more you do that, the more you drop. Lower and lower and lower.
Until one day you wake up… you look at your business and life and wonder how is it that I was never able to grow this?
How is it that I was never able to create what I wanted?
How is it that I seem to be where I was decades ago?
I’ll tell you exactly why.
It’s because YOU made decisions and took action and showed up from that space.
That little voice that says: “Nobody cares.”
That little voice that says: “Nobody will buy.”
That little voice that says: “There’s no point.”
That little voice that says: “It’s too late.”
That little voice that says: “It’s not really working anyway.”
That little voice that says: “You don’t matter.”
That little voice that says: “You’ll never get there.”
That little voice that says: “Nothing’s changed.”
The more you follow that little voice…the more you act accordingly…
The more you respond, behave, and live from that voice…the more your results will reflect that.
It’s time you stopped doing that.
It’s time you made a decision to act from a different space.
From a different mindset.
From a different mind.
Don’t let that voice bring you down to the extent where you wonder why you ever thought it was possible for you to live out your dream.
That voice will make you question everything you’ve ever worked for.
And that voice will make you doubt whether anything you’ve ever dreamed of is truly achievable.
That voice is your only real obstacle.
And YOU have the power to override it.
HAVE YOU LOST YOUR CONFIDENCE IN BUSINESS?
Can I remind you of a time when you were fearless…
A time when you knew and trusted that what you wanted was available and achievable.
A time when you simply believed in what you wanted and knew it was allowed.
A time when you would have just gone after it with gusto and exhilaration.
It’s funny how sometimes with time, experiences, life, and various events, you can slow down.
You can start recoiling, contracting, and playing small.
All of a sudden, that trust and faith and courage you once had slowly contracts.
And you notice yourself playing on defense.
Cautious, tiptoeing, careful, watching your every move in case it’s the wrong one.
Now don’t get me wrong there’s a lot of value in learning from your past.
Learning from your mistakes.
Learning from previous failure.
But that’s all it’s meant to be GROWTH and LEARNING.
It shouldn’t instill in you a lack of trust.
You’re allowed to still trust yourself.
If you notice yourself lacking that self belief and that trust in yourself…
I want you to ask yourself, what do I now believe that I didn’t used to believe?
🤔’do you believe that you can no longer trust yourself because you made the wrong choices in the past?’
🤔’do you believe you can’t trust yourself because you went down the wrong path when you did?’
🤔’do you believe that if you trust yourself again and take actions that you’ll end up making the same mistakes again?’
🤔’do you believe that if you fully trust yourself, you’ll end up with the same consequences you’re dealing with now?’
🤔’do you believe that if you trusted yourself again, you’d lose sight of the learnings and go down the wrong path again?’
The beliefs you have are what are causing you to feel the way you feel.
The beliefs you have are what are causing you to behave so cautiously.
The beliefs you have are what are causing you to feel so much doubt, fear and overwhelm.
The beliefs you have are what are causing you to act in the way you’re acting.
Stop for a second and ask yourself…
What am I believing that I didn’t used to believe?
What am I believing about business?
What am I believing about my future?
What am I believing about myself?
Because those beliefs are dictating your current experience, behavior, and response to circumstances…
And by the way… you can ALTER those beliefs at any point using mindset work and action…
YOUR HUNGER DOESN’T DISAPPEAR.
Nor does your motivation.
But what does happen is your beliefs can shift.
Events in your life can affect you.
Thoughts can get you to feel a certain way.
Sometimes you forget WHY you’re doing something.
Sometimes you simply don’t believe what you want is possible.
Sometimes you question everything.
And guess what, it’s your mind (your beliefs and thoughts) that get you to FEEL driven and FEEL motivated.
So if you’re not “feeling” driven…it’s time to look at your mind and what you’re thinking…
I’ve always known (deep down) that the MOST significant part of success is your level of DRIVE and HUNGER.
Because without HUNGER and DRIVE?
You won’t keep coming back.
You’ll give up when things don’t show up as fast as you’d like them to.
And don’t get me wrong, I DO believe it comes down to your:
Etc. Of course those things matter. BUT in my mind and in my opinion, they are not the true key.
Because those mean NOTHING if you’re not hungry.
When you’re hungry, you go above and beyond.
When you’re hungry, you spend the extra hour.
When you’re hungry, you don’t seem time fly by.
When you’re hungry, you’re willing to put in the hours to learn marketing and sales.
When you’re hungry, you’re willing to work on your long-haul flight.
When you’re hungry, you’re willing to do that funnel 23 times.
When you’re hungry, you’re willing to do more interviews to find the right person for your team.
When you’re hungry, you persist when nothing seems to be working.
When you’re hungry, your passion permeates everything you do.
And my question to you is, where’s your hunger at?
I’m guessing that if your hunger, drive and ambition isn’t where it was 6 months or 18 months ago… it could be because of your BELIEFS.
I want you to look at what’s changed since that time when you were SO freaking hungry and ambitious about your dreams and your next level.
What did you USED to believe about what was possible for you?
What did you USED to believe about yourself?
What did you USED to believe about what you were doing in your company?
What did you USED to believe about your future?
What did you USED to believe?
Because I can tell you right now that what you USED to believe is what made you that hungry.
And it’s time to challenge, question and possibly make a U-TURN on those beliefs.
Let me tell you something.
Your passion, drive, ambition and dreams haven’t ‘gone anywhere’.
It’s your beliefs that have possibly changed.
And guess what?
You have the power and choice to change them again.
Want the drive back?
Look at what YOU used to believe and change your beliefs back to that.
YOU’RE AS STUCK AS YOU BELIEVE YOURSELF TO BE.
What do you believe about your next level in business?
Do you believe it’s impossible?
Do you believe you’re not smart enough to make it happen?
Do you believe it’ll take 20 years?
Do you believe nobody cares?
Do you believe you’re terrible at sales?
Do you believe you’re awful at managing others?
Do you believe you’re just not capable of it?
Do you believe everyone will see through it and you and will think it’s garbage?
What are you believing about achieving your next level in business?
I can tell you that whatever it is you believe is impacting your every choice, your every action, all of it.
When you believe you’re terrible at sales, you’ll act accordingly.
When you believe you’re awful with money, you’ll act accordingly.
When you believe you’re not capable of succeeding, you’ll act accordingly.
When you believe it’ll take you 20 years to get to the next level, you’ll act accordingly.
Now there maybe some truth to what you believe… BUT you have more power than you think around changing it.
So if you truly are bad at sales… you can read a book on sales, and put in practice what you learn, and apply it, and learn, and improve, and make mistakes, and improve some more… and become one of the best sales people out there.
If you’re awful with money…maybe you’re right 😉 but why not change it? Read books about wealth management. Read books about money. Watch trainings from David Bach. Learn, read, and put it in practice in your life.
My point being is this… your beliefs right now are causing you to act in certain ways.
And if you want NEW results in your business and life, you’re going to have to look at those beliefs, and CHANGE them.
And you change them both through mindset work AND through ACTION.
Like learning new skills.
Adding new habits in your life.
You can change.
You can change your results too.
It’s true. EVEN for you.
EVEN with your current circumstances.
YOUR RESULTS ARE NOT PERMANENT…
I think it’s easy to look at your current results and feel frustrated.
It’s easy to be hard on yourself. To make yourself feel bad for not being where you want to be in business (or in life).
But in those moments, I think we forget that we have the ability to pick up ANY skills in ANY area at any time.
You’re not done.
You’re not ‘finished’.
This is not ‘the end’.
It’s just where you are now.
It’s not where you’ll end up.
And the key is to remember that you can pick up new skills.
You can improve your sales skills.
You can improve your money management skills.
You can improve your leadership skills.
You can improve your business skills.
And with new skills (and execution of those skills) comes new results.
Something I tell my clients is that your current results are simply feedback.
They are not ‘personal’.
Your bank account, your business account, the weight on the scale, the love life you have … it’s all just feedback.
Your bank account doesn’t feel emotional about YOU.
Your scale doesn’t care about the number that shows up when you step on it.
We are the ones who bring in the disempowering narrative.
We tell a story.
About what it means.
We make up a narrative.
And that brings up feelings.
Ideally though, you want to remove the story. And see the results are they are: numbers, stats, data, feedback really.
And with numbers and data, you can simply enter new inputs to have a different output.
So if you change your routines, your habits, your actions, your thinking patterns, you’ll start seeing NEW numbers. NEW data. NEW stats.
Whatever result you have in business right now is just FEEDBACK. Learn from it and then start again.
You’ll continue to get new feedback.
And the more feedback you get (results), the easier it’ll be to know what you to tweak and modify in your habits.
So keep going.
Keep bringing in new habits.
Keep changing your mindset.
Keep programming your mind with new beliefs.
Keep adding in new routines.
And watch how the “feedback” in your business changes.
IMPROVEMENT IS THE NAME OF THE GAME.
Feel like such a nerd saying that but it truly is game-changing.
If your objective in life and business is GROWTH, PROGRESS and IMPROVEMENT, you will feel SO much more fulfilled and in alignment.
The aim is NOT to change overnight. I sometimes thought it was.
And actually what I’ve learned is MORE powerful is actually changing over time through NEW daily habits.
When you change your thinking habits and your action habits and even your emotional habits and responses,
YOUR RESULTS CHANGE TOO.
And the key?
Is daily habits.
What you do every day is what is creating your life and business.
What you do on an hour by hour basis IS the cause of your results.
If you want DIFFERENT RESULTS, you’re going to have change your HABITS.
The things you do each day.
But not just your action habits, your THINKING habits too.
Because what you focus on and what you say to yourself and what you choose to think about is what creates your behavior!
I want you to really remember that you CAN improve over time.
Right now today, if you START a new daily habit… in 6 months time, you will TANGIBLY see NEW results.
Isn’t that amazing?
Whether it’s a thinking habit or an action habit, doing it daily will CHANGE your life within 3 months, 6 months, 12 months, 2 years.
And that’s the power of focusing on IMPROVEMENT, PROGRESS and GROWTH.
It’s not an overnight thing. It’s a commitment to daily habits that OVER TIME give you the results you want.
Girl. Fall in love with the DOING of the daily habits.
Fall in love with the work itself NOT the goal.
Fall in love with the HABITS.
Because then you’ll be blissed out and feeling grateful every day.
Not just one day out of 365 days!
DO YOU KNOW HOW POWERFUL MINDSET IS?
It can and WILL change your life IF you put in the work.
Honestly. It’s POWERFUL.
For example, I want you to think about an area of your life where you’re absolutely CRUSHING it!
Aka, an area of your life where you’re doing REALLY well.
It could be with your kids.
Or it could be in your love life.
Or your body.
Or your friendships.
Or anything else.
Think about that area.
And now think about how YOU perceive yourself in that area.
Do you feel like a complete BADASS in that arena?
Do you feel CONFIDENT, STRONG, POWERFUL, IN CONTROL in that area?
Take a second to really reflect on how you see yourself in that particular area… what do you believe about yourself?
How do OTHERS perceive you in that area?
What do you FOCUS on when it comes to that area?
Now…. think about your business or your finances. How do you perceive yourself in business or finances?
Do you feel a sudden energy shift?
Do you notice a different mood settling in?
Do you notice a LACK of confidence or LESS power?
The self image we hold and the beliefs we have in the area of business is what determines HOW we show up in it:
The thoughts we have, the actions we take, the choices we make, even the ENERGY we give off to others.
AND THAT. THAT MINDSET has an impact on the results you’re getting in business.
I was thinking about this with regards to soccer for me. It’s an area I feel incredibly confident in.
And it’s where I shine and it’s always where I really allow myself to “take up space” and fully OWN the role I play on the team, in a game etc.
For example, some of the beliefs I hold in this area are: “I can absolutely smash it.” “Of course I can be amazing in a game.” “It’s so easy for me to improve and get better.” “I feel confident I can crush it.” I share this with you to get YOU to think about YOUR current beliefs when it comes to your business… What are they like?
What are your thoughts like?
How do you see yourself?
And realize that you can CHOOSE to change how you see yourself at ANY point! You can ALWAYS choose to change your MINDSET. IT’S NOT SET IN STONE. 😙
FOR SO LONG, I HAD NO IDEA HOW TO CHANGE MY BUSINESS RESULTS. UNTIL I REALIZED THIS:
In a way, it felt like there WAS a secret to increasing results… But I didn’t know what that secret was.
And so I always felt like I was missing out on the one secret that would get me better results in business.
Aka more money. More sales. More epic clients. More impact. More engagement. More leads. And the list goes on.
But because I believed there was a ‘secret’, it left me feeling stuck and frustrated a lot of the time when I first started.
At some point, after reading mindset books and getting coached 1:1, I realized there was no “secret”. BUT there were new SKILLS & HABITS.
Skills I could learn and improve on.
And NEW daily habits I could start implementing.
So for example, I learned that I could IMPROVE my selling skills.
I also learned that I could IMPROVE my marketing skills.
And my meditation skills.
And my content creation skills.
And my networking skills.
And my communication skills.
And my money management skills.
And my wealth building skills.
I realized ‘oh I see… I can LEARN how to improve these skills. AND that in turn will get me bigger results.’ At the same time, I found out NEW DAILY HABITS would get me NEW RESULTS.
So for example, by doing 1 sales activity a day (like posting a blog with a call to action or sharing an Instagram live and selling at the end), I was INCREASING the number of sales leads I was making over time.
Now, this all seems so obvious.
But at the time, I didn’t UNDERSTAND where my results were coming from.
Now I get that they come from my SKILL level and my DAILY HABITS (which including my thinking and mindset habits). I thought I’d share this with you to remind you that ALL of your results right now are due to YOU.
And only you.
So if you want DIFFERENT and BIGGER results, increase your skills (sales, meditation, visualization, managemnet, marketing etc). AND implement a few new DAILY habits (journaling, asking for referrals daily, exercise etc) that will drastically increase your business results.
And OVER TIME, you will WITHOUT A DOUBT experience an increase in your results!👌
IF YOU WERE GUARANTEED TO SUCCED IN 12 MONTHS TIME…
And there was ZERO doubt about it.
It was a done deal.
And you didn’t have to guess or wonder or assume.
You were GUARANTEED you’d have what you want WITHIN 6-12 months…
Don’t you think you’d be in MORE of a hurry to go out there and create it?! Wouldn’t you be more excited? More enthusiastic?
More pumped and happy and grateful for what was to come?
More motivated and driven and energized and pleased to go through the process of building it?
And I wonder if it’s time for you to ACT like this is true.
Because let’s think about the opposite.
The opposite is you saying it may happen within the next 6-12 months but it may also happen over the next 180 months!? Or the next 20 years?!?
I mean… is it surprising that you’re NOT mega motivated to go out there and do the work if you think it’s going to take you 20 years to build it?!
I think the reason so many people don’t feel or experience any urgency is because there’s a large part of them that doesn’t think their dreams are going to happen any time soon!
And therefore instead of being out there eagerly taking action and LOVING the journey, they’re meandering…walking so slowly towards the destination because deep down they think it might take another 20 years for them to build or worse that it may never come to life!?
Ask yourself what would be more empowering to believe?
And what BELIEF would accelerate the results?
What would you need to believe to REALLY MAKE THIS THING HAPPEN?! Ultimately you’re the one making up the belief anyway! It’s not fact.
So you might as well choose a belief that’s going to get you to create the thing you want more quickly!!
Ask yourself… how long do I believe it’s going to take for me to create my next level results?
Whatever you answer is a GREAT indicator of how you feel and the level of action you’ve been taking this week!
And ask yourself if it’s time to CHANGE that belief and anchor in a new one! Remember that a belief is just a THOUGHT (that you hold a lot of certainty to).
IF YOU WANT NEW RESULTS, YOU NEED TO CHANGE WHAT YOU BELIEVE ABOUT YOURSELF.
Look, if you keep thinking the same thoughts and acting in the same way, why would the results you get in business change?
But imagine if you CHANGED your beliefs, your thinking habits, and your actions… don’t you think your RESULTS would change?
What do you believe about yourself right now?
Do you believe you’re good at what you do?
Do you believe you’re smart?
Do you believe you can learn to get better?
Do you believe you can succeed?
Determine what you believe about yourself and then ask yourself if THOSE are the most empowering beliefs you could have.
maybe it’s time for you to REALLY believe that YOU can do anything you set your mind to, without limitation!
Maybe it’s time for you to believe you can LEARN any skill in ANY area at ANY time!
Maybe it’s time for you to believe that you’re just as capable as anyone else out there to SCALE your business.
Maybe it’s time for you to believe you can change the beliefs you have about yourself.
Also, what do you believe about your industry?
What do you believe about making money?
What do you believe about creating leads and clients?
Notice if the beliefs you hold about those things are EMPOWERING or DISEMPOWERING to you.
Wouldn’t it be MORE empowering for you to believe that you can become the best in the industry?
Wouldn’t it be MORE empowering for you to believe that you CAN make a lot of money in your field?
Wouldn’t it be more empowering for you to believe that you can LEARN how to create consistent leads and clients?
Because this is the thing about beliefs: they make us act in a particular way.
For example, if you believe it’s possible for you to become the best in the industry, you’ll ACT accordingly. You’ll find ways to LEARN, to INNOVATE, to research, to ADD more value, to CREATE more, to GIVE more, to SERVE more.
What we believe affects the way we act!
So, isn’t it time YOU worked on changing the beliefs you have?
It is SIMPLE to change your beliefs. It really is!
Start TODAY. CHANGE YOUR BELIEFS, CHANGE YOUR HABITS.